First thought, best thought. Slut Squad is perfect imo.
Got "I'm putting together a team..." vibes.
You now just need a van for on-call and one of those surrealist lobster phones so you can pick up with a sultry , "Hello, Slut Squad, What is your emergency?"
I'm a person that learned sex mostly from books and written resources (shout out to Girl Sex 101 by Allison Moon). I consider myself good at sex, so I would say it's paid off. I'm convinced pleasurable, great sex is a skill like anything else. My partners tend to shy away from this form of knowledge, and insist sex is either natural or intuitive, and put a lot more weight into experience over books. This isn't a direct question, I'm just curious what your views are on this! Thanks!
P.s. I wonder if DoxySquad would be good. Archaic English word for lover, but also a Greek suffix for knowledge.
What's the best way for a man to get into the "slut cloud"? Just read pickup books and go approach every woman in your local bar? Lift weights and meet women at your local gym? Something else?
If you were a man and had a goal of sleeping with a new woman every week over the next year, what would be your strategy?
Married with two young children here. Both work full time so not much free time. When we are on vacation sex is great but when we are home it's something she lets me do vs something she is excited to do. Enjoys it during but getting over the hump of I just want to crash is a large issue. How do you get that vacation sex attraction/desire during the mundane daily life.
There are many components for what makes sex "good" but I'm interested in classifying them into two categories:
- the more you try, the better the outcome
- the more you try, the worse the outcome
An example of "the better the outcome" might be something like, the more you do cardio and work out, the more stamina you have, etc.
An example of "the worse the outcome" might be something like, the more you try to give her an orgasm, the more pressure she might feel, the less likely it'll happen.
What are some examples of things people think are in one category but are actually in the other? Maybe, put more simply, what is controllable and what isn't with respect to making sex good?
How do you learn to trust your instincts and let yourself feel safe enough with someone you don't know well? I like rough sex but also, I ain't looking to make friends, really?
How do you balance getting to know someone well enough to fuck them with keeping boundaries so you don't end up in a situation where there's mismatched expectations?
Hi, im 27 F with a body count of around 40. While I've enjoyed really great sex, I don't think I've ever experienced anything mindblowing, which makes me feel like I'm missing out / not filtering potential partners well.
What are some of the realizations re sex / ways of filtering / setting up tests for potential partners, that significantly affected your sex lives positively?
Thanks !
Also would love to see a Good at Sex version for ladies in the future one day :)
How common is squirting? How come are multiple orgasms, meaning over 10 per session. I am a woman, 41, married 16 years and divorced for one, wherr I got really adventurous with my sex life. I come extremely easily, sometimes over 20 times, and squirt a lot, and really want to know how common this is, for both sex workers and non sex workers. Media makes it seems like having an orgasm is rare for women, and that is not even close to my personal experience and I have always wonder if it is really rare or just not that talked about. I also happen to have a very high libido, which I am not sure is connected to the orgasm thing. Can't wait for the squad's answer!
For Aella: I find your outlook on the pain you’ve experience through trauma inspiring. You’ve mentioned in a past article about how people reacted to your abuse and would recoil in horror/disbelief which could at times increase the suffering. I’m wondering if there is a way you wish people would react to stories of trauma? What do you think is the healthiest reaction to stories for people that have not experienced (or even come close) to the same level of trauma? Thank you!
Aella sometimes has this attitude like "people who have been married for 20 years don't need my help, they already know how to have sex" of course that's not true we need help too, maybe even more.
(BTW I don't see the comments I've already posted, maybe they need to be moderated or something. I posted a suggestion for the name of the squad and I'm not sure the post went through so I'm going to embarrass myself by posting it again. My suggestion was "the slutisticians".)
I've followed both you and Diana on Twitter for years. I'm a 39 year old woman and I've slept with about 12-15 men. The reason it's not more is that... there's no reason to do it unless I'm getting a lot in exchange for it. Like devotion, fidelity, taking care of me in some way, being very complimentary, etc.... Sex is something I do for the man, I let him have access to my holes, and it's very exciting for him, and it feels very good, but it leaves me unmoved. I've never received oral sex that I liked. I have slept with men and told them, "Please let's try everything you can think of to get me off. Look at my clitoris with a flashlight to make sure you can find it." I've done dominance and submission. The only way I can reliably get off is to close my eyes and concentrate very hard and use a vibrator. The dick? The tongue? The hands? They don't do anything for me. I really don't think this is unusual, either. I have a friend who's slept with upwards of 100 men and she says that she "usually" doesn't get off. What?! What's the point, then? I genuinely think sex is for men and our bodies aren't built to enjoy it. Theirs are.
Bayes Baes
First thought, best thought. Slut Squad is perfect imo.
Got "I'm putting together a team..." vibes.
You now just need a van for on-call and one of those surrealist lobster phones so you can pick up with a sultry , "Hello, Slut Squad, What is your emergency?"
Intersexual Dark Web.
I'm sorry.
Sex Positive Analytic Women Now! SPAWN!
I'm a person that learned sex mostly from books and written resources (shout out to Girl Sex 101 by Allison Moon). I consider myself good at sex, so I would say it's paid off. I'm convinced pleasurable, great sex is a skill like anything else. My partners tend to shy away from this form of knowledge, and insist sex is either natural or intuitive, and put a lot more weight into experience over books. This isn't a direct question, I'm just curious what your views are on this! Thanks!
P.s. I wonder if DoxySquad would be good. Archaic English word for lover, but also a Greek suffix for knowledge.
What's the best way for a man to get into the "slut cloud"? Just read pickup books and go approach every woman in your local bar? Lift weights and meet women at your local gym? Something else?
If you were a man and had a goal of sleeping with a new woman every week over the next year, what would be your strategy?
Married with two young children here. Both work full time so not much free time. When we are on vacation sex is great but when we are home it's something she lets me do vs something she is excited to do. Enjoys it during but getting over the hump of I just want to crash is a large issue. How do you get that vacation sex attraction/desire during the mundane daily life.
There are many components for what makes sex "good" but I'm interested in classifying them into two categories:
- the more you try, the better the outcome
- the more you try, the worse the outcome
An example of "the better the outcome" might be something like, the more you do cardio and work out, the more stamina you have, etc.
An example of "the worse the outcome" might be something like, the more you try to give her an orgasm, the more pressure she might feel, the less likely it'll happen.
What are some examples of things people think are in one category but are actually in the other? Maybe, put more simply, what is controllable and what isn't with respect to making sex good?
“The Sex Council” sounds more serious. Imagine starting an interview with “I am from The Sex Council”, it really sounds like something.
Emerging slut here,
How do you learn to trust your instincts and let yourself feel safe enough with someone you don't know well? I like rough sex but also, I ain't looking to make friends, really?
How do you balance getting to know someone well enough to fuck them with keeping boundaries so you don't end up in a situation where there's mismatched expectations?
How do you get people to LEAVE after sex??????
ASS (Analytical Slut Sisterhood)
Hi, im 27 F with a body count of around 40. While I've enjoyed really great sex, I don't think I've ever experienced anything mindblowing, which makes me feel like I'm missing out / not filtering potential partners well.
What are some of the realizations re sex / ways of filtering / setting up tests for potential partners, that significantly affected your sex lives positively?
Thanks !
Also would love to see a Good at Sex version for ladies in the future one day :)
How common is squirting? How come are multiple orgasms, meaning over 10 per session. I am a woman, 41, married 16 years and divorced for one, wherr I got really adventurous with my sex life. I come extremely easily, sometimes over 20 times, and squirt a lot, and really want to know how common this is, for both sex workers and non sex workers. Media makes it seems like having an orgasm is rare for women, and that is not even close to my personal experience and I have always wonder if it is really rare or just not that talked about. I also happen to have a very high libido, which I am not sure is connected to the orgasm thing. Can't wait for the squad's answer!
For Aella: I find your outlook on the pain you’ve experience through trauma inspiring. You’ve mentioned in a past article about how people reacted to your abuse and would recoil in horror/disbelief which could at times increase the suffering. I’m wondering if there is a way you wish people would react to stories of trauma? What do you think is the healthiest reaction to stories for people that have not experienced (or even come close) to the same level of trauma? Thank you!
Aella sometimes has this attitude like "people who have been married for 20 years don't need my help, they already know how to have sex" of course that's not true we need help too, maybe even more.
(BTW I don't see the comments I've already posted, maybe they need to be moderated or something. I posted a suggestion for the name of the squad and I'm not sure the post went through so I'm going to embarrass myself by posting it again. My suggestion was "the slutisticians".)
I've followed both you and Diana on Twitter for years. I'm a 39 year old woman and I've slept with about 12-15 men. The reason it's not more is that... there's no reason to do it unless I'm getting a lot in exchange for it. Like devotion, fidelity, taking care of me in some way, being very complimentary, etc.... Sex is something I do for the man, I let him have access to my holes, and it's very exciting for him, and it feels very good, but it leaves me unmoved. I've never received oral sex that I liked. I have slept with men and told them, "Please let's try everything you can think of to get me off. Look at my clitoris with a flashlight to make sure you can find it." I've done dominance and submission. The only way I can reliably get off is to close my eyes and concentrate very hard and use a vibrator. The dick? The tongue? The hands? They don't do anything for me. I really don't think this is unusual, either. I have a friend who's slept with upwards of 100 men and she says that she "usually" doesn't get off. What?! What's the point, then? I genuinely think sex is for men and our bodies aren't built to enjoy it. Theirs are.