Am I the only one who finds these articles simultaneously fascinating and disheartening? I've been married for a rather long time and am increasingly convinced there is no reliable path to good sex. Even if you find the path for a while, your partner changes (or you change) and it all fades into mystery. I'd give up on sex entirely if it wasn't so dammed compelling.
one thing I'm curious about is does a bigger dick make it easier to cum? I always thought it seemed likely because of more feeling, not to mention the psychological aspect..
I'm on the smaller size of average (5.1", 4.2" girth on a good day) so I'm concerned I may not be able to get a woman there...
I love to dig into the psychology and preference of what you do and don’t before and during sex. However, my experience is that we are much more governed by direct visual stimulation and preferences. These might have foundations in evolution but these sex guides only apply if you already fall into the group of ‘desirable’ men and women.
As the interviewee said, she puts up with a lot in the sack once the screening has been completed.
You might be better off with a visit to plastic surgeon, lol.
I enjoyed this interview. But I find it a pretty high bar if I have to intuitively guess in what kind of mood my partner is each time. You talk about getting off by becoming a sex creature. But to be able to not overthink it during sex, I see the benefit of communicating clearly beforehand to express the daily likes/dislikes. Of course this goes both ways.
Yes, and I get the deep desire to merge with your partner in a perfect harmony. Maybe that’s possible after some time of being together but its rather fairy tale stuff. Even if you click with someone right out of the gate, chances are without talking about likes and dislikes this will not last.
Seems like I'd get along with both Romy and S. I enjoyed reading the interview because I am always seeking advice to improve. I agree that sex with every partner is different which is why I like it so much. The connection and interactions are different...or they should be. Everyone has different chemistry when they are together which means that the sex is different. Also the balance of power is different with different partners so you have to adjust. Some woman want all of the pleasure and others are perfectly happy giving it all, then most like a mixture of the two. I try to assess that before the sex starts. Also I agree that more men should go down on women. I love going down on a woman especially if they taste real good. I love bringing them to their first orgasm that way.
It is great if you can sense what your partner wants but sometimes that is not always completely possible when you may not know them that well or just met them. I had that happen the other night when I was going to have sex but didn't really know the woman before that night. We openly and frankly talked about what we like and what we were going to do with each other when we got home. We used the communications as foreplay building up to the event. Also we felt comfortable enough with each other to say what is working and not working during sex as well as sensing it too. The same goes when performing.
The sex should change with each new encounter with a that partner or else it becomes formulaic like a bad porn video. A good tease and flirt builds the momentum and can provide that change too. I leave the head games out of sex because I like it to be fun and relaxing especially if it is recreational. Romantic sex is a whole other topic.
For these reasons, I prefer encounters with women like Aella, Romy, and S because of the experience and fact that they know what they like and want and are not afraid to articulate it.
> Yeah, they get filtered out. If they seem like that then I'm not attracted to them.
I wish there was also an explanation on where to meet women like S as well as tips and tricks on how to convince a woman of her type to sleep with you.
In a few short minutes I have learnt a lot about women’s perception of sex and my misinterpretation. I had a lot of luck but with this I might even be better going forward.
Also if you know of any early career researcher such as Post-Docs, PhDs, and Students(current and aspiring PhD and Masters students) please send them to subscribe to my newsletter as I have a lot for them in their career moves: https://gradinterface.substack.com/
Am I the only one who finds these articles simultaneously fascinating and disheartening? I've been married for a rather long time and am increasingly convinced there is no reliable path to good sex. Even if you find the path for a while, your partner changes (or you change) and it all fades into mystery. I'd give up on sex entirely if it wasn't so dammed compelling.
one thing I'm curious about is does a bigger dick make it easier to cum? I always thought it seemed likely because of more feeling, not to mention the psychological aspect..
I'm on the smaller size of average (5.1", 4.2" girth on a good day) so I'm concerned I may not be able to get a woman there...
"a compliment to the Good At Sex series". Heh. Homonym alert! Complement.
10 min? That's not sex that's copulation! The
"Art" is a.i isn't it? So disappointed
I’m so excited! Will update when I have read through! Thanks 🙏🏾
I love to dig into the psychology and preference of what you do and don’t before and during sex. However, my experience is that we are much more governed by direct visual stimulation and preferences. These might have foundations in evolution but these sex guides only apply if you already fall into the group of ‘desirable’ men and women.
As the interviewee said, she puts up with a lot in the sack once the screening has been completed.
You might be better off with a visit to plastic surgeon, lol.
Here is an interesting article to that.
https://www.theguardian.com/wellness/2024/jan/31/dating-is-having-type-bad?CMP=Share_iOSApp_Other
I enjoyed this interview. But I find it a pretty high bar if I have to intuitively guess in what kind of mood my partner is each time. You talk about getting off by becoming a sex creature. But to be able to not overthink it during sex, I see the benefit of communicating clearly beforehand to express the daily likes/dislikes. Of course this goes both ways.
Yes, and I get the deep desire to merge with your partner in a perfect harmony. Maybe that’s possible after some time of being together but its rather fairy tale stuff. Even if you click with someone right out of the gate, chances are without talking about likes and dislikes this will not last.
Try asking Cathy Reisenwitz.
Seems like I'd get along with both Romy and S. I enjoyed reading the interview because I am always seeking advice to improve. I agree that sex with every partner is different which is why I like it so much. The connection and interactions are different...or they should be. Everyone has different chemistry when they are together which means that the sex is different. Also the balance of power is different with different partners so you have to adjust. Some woman want all of the pleasure and others are perfectly happy giving it all, then most like a mixture of the two. I try to assess that before the sex starts. Also I agree that more men should go down on women. I love going down on a woman especially if they taste real good. I love bringing them to their first orgasm that way.
It is great if you can sense what your partner wants but sometimes that is not always completely possible when you may not know them that well or just met them. I had that happen the other night when I was going to have sex but didn't really know the woman before that night. We openly and frankly talked about what we like and what we were going to do with each other when we got home. We used the communications as foreplay building up to the event. Also we felt comfortable enough with each other to say what is working and not working during sex as well as sensing it too. The same goes when performing.
The sex should change with each new encounter with a that partner or else it becomes formulaic like a bad porn video. A good tease and flirt builds the momentum and can provide that change too. I leave the head games out of sex because I like it to be fun and relaxing especially if it is recreational. Romantic sex is a whole other topic.
For these reasons, I prefer encounters with women like Aella, Romy, and S because of the experience and fact that they know what they like and want and are not afraid to articulate it.
> Yeah, they get filtered out. If they seem like that then I'm not attracted to them.
I wish there was also an explanation on where to meet women like S as well as tips and tricks on how to convince a woman of her type to sleep with you.
It'd be really nice to be able to listen to an audio version of this interview.
In a few short minutes I have learnt a lot about women’s perception of sex and my misinterpretation. I had a lot of luck but with this I might even be better going forward.
Also if you know of any early career researcher such as Post-Docs, PhDs, and Students(current and aspiring PhD and Masters students) please send them to subscribe to my newsletter as I have a lot for them in their career moves: https://gradinterface.substack.com/
Yeah!