What the hell do you do when someone in a friend group or community goes off the rails? What if it’s unclear exactly how off the rails they are? What if reports of going off the rails have come in from people you trust? What about multiple people you only kinda trust? What if you think the off-the-rails was an isolated incident? What if it was mild but ongoing and annoying? What if they went
I'd be very interested to hear about any filtering strategies you have.
I think there should be a blanket rule against secrecy in accusations (like the sixth amendment to the US constitution). If anyone wants to have an accusation mean anything, they should have to put it in the open so that maximum evidence can be gathered and all sides can make their case and the accused can know what he did wrong instead of getting kafka-ed. Vague fears of retaliation against accusers are almost always overblown. It's usually extremely easy to avoid a person you don't want to see unless they're a co-worker or neighbor.