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Caperu_Wesperizzon's avatar

"I would feel violated if I learned that my opposite-sex friend was imagining what I would be like to have sex with. (1.19)"

I'd like to know as much as possible where that feeling comes from, since it seems basically universal among women, and I find it cryptic and very frustrating—as far as I can tell, it leaves no legitimate way for a man to interact with a woman he finds attractive. From a naïve heterosexual male point of view, it sounds even arrogant, as in, "Not only can I afford to take my attractiveness for granted; I feel entitled to decide who gets as much as to daydream of ever being sexually intimate with me, your alleged right to freedom of thought be damned".

For another survey, I suggest this counterpoint: "I would feel flattered if I learned that anyone at all of the opposite sex ever bothered to imagine what I would be like to have sex with. Especially if they managed to do it without throwing up".

Anyway, thank you for the good work.

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skaladom's avatar

That was pretty cool! I just answered a few hundred questions while on the bus.

Btw, the survey asked how we heard about it, but "read it on your blog" was not one of the options, which I found weird.

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