You should think about writing a review or overview of the experience, after it’s over with. I’m curious, but can’t attend due to geographical difficulties. 😔
This feels like a bunch of PUA bullshit meant to scam simps and incels. PUA is a scam and so is this, because it treats sexuality like a videogame where you can negotiate attraction and earn it with the correct inputs, and it doesn't work like that. There's no cheat or combination for words for making a woman be attracted to you because at the end of the day that comes from three simple things that men cannont summon out of thin hair, that is Looks, money and status. There's no good dating advice other than "become a passport bro" or "become rich, get plastic surgery".
I feel bad for you internet people trapped in a fog of memes masquerading as truth. The internet has no room for glorious alternative subcultures where people seduced each other with wit, adventure, kindness, sexual skill, and a million other things of which sheer good looks or wealth are one of many possibilities. My artsy circle in pre-internet times was full of unlikely pairings and we’d all discuss how this person or that person was magnetic in some unique and irresistible way.
I’m out of the game these days but I hope Gen z still gets to live in that world, somewhere.
Probably the most thoughtful comment here. So many people abandoned the concept of a genuine connection for a gamified idea of leveling up in an abstract competition
But it did turn out to be true. I know how these events go, I have second hand experience from clubs and the party scene which are a lite version of this. The sexually inadequate losers pay to get in, the winners tend to bring more women to the women as payment instead.
This is just a female version of a PUA bootcamp that doesn’t even undo the psychological damage the left has done in making the men willing to try and handle rejection. At least now the PUA’s are admitting that looks, fashion and mindset matters a lot more than plain low inhibition and rejection tolerance gained by exposure therapy.
The only studies backing up PUA bootcamps and Aella’s Slutcon bootcamp is plain Exposure therapy. Which isn’t the end all be all, especially when we have actual studies that show the other factors are way more important in getting your foot through the door which emphasize LMS more. Macken Murphy talks about these studies on his YouTube channel. He’s an Oxford researcher into this stuff. My experience, although anecdotal, comes from trying to replicate the efficacy of improving each factor independently.
- Global / 20-Country Study (YouGov, 2017): Across 20 countries, women consistently ranked personality above good looks. Singapore: 85% of women said personality matters most; India: ~75% agreed.
- UK (Ipsos, 2023): Men thought women prioritized looks and money. In reality, 60% of women chose humour and 53% chose kindness as the most important traits.
- Body Image Studies (Lei et al., British Journal of Psychology, 2021): Men overestimate how muscular women want them to be; women’s actual preferences are more moderate.
- Canada (Ipsos, 2012): ~83% of Canadians, especially women, said a sense of humor matters more than good looks.
- Middle East & North Africa (YouGov / Gulf News, 2017): UAE: 61% of women chose personality; only 13% chose money, 23% looks. Saudi Arabia: ~79% said personality > looks. Egypt: ~83% agreed.
- Latin America (The Swaddle, 2018): Women from Brazil, Mexico, and Colombia emphasized education, kindness, and supportiveness over abs or wealth.
- India (Bumble India, 2023): About 56% of singles put kindness above looks or income.
Attraction doesn't come from 3 simple things. Completely wrong. It comes from one simple thing.
How you make her feel.
That's it.
I started exploring the world of women at the age of 48 after a 28 year marriage with almost zero dating experience. I was an average frustrated chump and had no idea.
Almost 10 years later with massive learning and experience I so resonate with Aella's words.
I've had my most crazily successful times with women when I've had literally nothing. No status, no money, no looks.
But I've spent years now dancing and feeling the natural ecstasy of my own body. And in connection with the right lady this energy grows and deepens. That's all. It works. Try it. Go dancing.
This turned out to be mostly true, it was mostly asian tech-bro incels that paid 10k to get in and get pity sex from the “volunteers”.
Men have already figured out the true factors for attraction, and that is LMS (Looks-Money-Status). I personally don’t think PUA is a scam, but the people who sell it extremely over inflated it’s worth when compared to other indicators. It’s at best an efficient way to signal a false status.
This is worsened by the fact that misandry is openly promoted by the left leaning circles due to masculinity and masculine sexual expression is being perceived as the marxist oppressor.
A good example is the famous problem among liberal circles, which is a lot of liberal women want liberal men, that happen to “look” conservative.
Not wrong, though. Dating sites report this. PlentyOfFish, before they were acquired by Match.com, used to report that about 10% of the users ("date bacon") are getting all the dates they want, and the remaining 90% get little or nothing.
I recommend the book The Mating Mind for a good understanding why humans evolved attraction signals that can be learned, understood, and worked on to better yourself.
Excited for this, and sad I can't make it, but supportive of future instances in the short-, mid-, and long-term. As a mom to an amab child who may one day desire women (if he chooses!) I'm deeply nervous about some of the trends I'm seeing in Millennials (my generation) andGen-Z, and I'm really hoping that Gen-A grows up in a culture where this has become the prevalent way of engaging with sex and desire. Slim chances, but I'm an optimist.
Please spread out and do this (a) every year and (b) around the world, so people who can't (or won't) travel halfway around the world can attend too, please.
Yeah that would be good. BootyCamp? SluteCamp? I think Aella is trying really hard to create positive connotations with the word slut, but it doesn't seem to best word here
you wouldnt believe the extensive debates we had on the backend about alternatives lol. But slutcon felt good? We both want something slightly polarizing - like we would rather be loud and unashamed about what we are and attract people who are willing to engage with that - and also I genuinely think the concept of ‘slut’ is good. It indicates something like… not being bound by societal norms for what you’re ‘supposed’ to do, and instead pursuing selfishly the sexual pleasure you truly want. I do think, for Slutcon, this can encompass monogamy too! If your selfish sexual pleasure involves only one person and a closed relationship then that is truly the Spirit of Slut as well.
I think one reason men are bad at making women horny is the word "sex". When you have the word "sex", you start classifying happenings as "sex" or "not sex". Which isn't how sex happens. And, while I totally support what you're doing, Aella, and I realize you have to use the word "sex" a lot to explain what you're trying to do, I think that some of the tools you need to make sex better won't be found inside the box labelled "sex". The main danger of analysis isn't that you'll dispel the "magic"; it's that you'll break continuums into categories so you can use symbolic logic on words. In this case, breaking the sexiness continuum into "not sex" and "sex".
Mammals, birds, fish, even insects, have mating rituals which ethologists usually describe as finite state automata. Typically, a male must perform a sequence of actions, and at each step the female must approve, and sometimes take some stereotypical action herself, for the male to advance to the next stage in the sequence. Only the very last step in the chain is technically "sex".
We don't imagine a male bower-bird gathering objects for his bower is thinking "Oh boy, this shiny thing is gonna get me laid!" There's no need for him to consciously know what's at the end of the chain. (Which is probably good, because it's pathetically anti-climactic for most birds.) Likewise, my own experience is not of me walking into a room, picking a woman, and wondering "How can I have sex with her?", but of my body trying to trick me into having sex. It keeps feeding me innocent impulses that always just happen to push me one step closer to sex. When I'm sizing a woman up, I'm not thinking about sex. I'm just curious. If she's pretty, well, that's nice; I like looking at pretty things. I bet I could get a better view if I got a bit closer. When I get closer, she laughs at something someone said, and her smile is so charming that I toss in a follow-on myself, one that might make her laugh again, because I want to see her smile again. And so on, and so on.
This plays out in a thousand different ways, most of which seem to have nothing to do with sex. Are you having sex when you smile at someone? When you do the dishes for them? Legally, no. But an ethologist's graph of the human mating sequence might well have steps in it that those actions would check off.
Nowadays, each state in the US has a section of its legal code devoted to defining precisely what is and is not sex, so you can know precisely when in the sequence you must halt and verify mutual knowledge of consent to have sex. This is important! But it focuses attention on a "sex" which is just a small part of a larger process.
And when people think "Now we will have sex", it focuses their minds on the limited range of things shown in pornography and listed in that legal code. Being curious about your partner's body, and her reactions, "isn't sex", so they don't do it. Or at least I think they must not, since most men still don't know where the G-spot is. I didn't know what a G-spot was the first time I had sex, but I sure as hell noticed where my fingers were when the lump formed and she started moaning. It took, like, 20 seconds of spelunking to discover when I didn't even know it existed.
Where the process of moving towards sex nearly always breaks down for me is at that socially-constructed not-sex/sex border. This happens because--and I'm gonna generalize, but it's a generalization with VERY few exceptions--the woman wants the man to lead her across that border; but today, only the woman is legally and morally ALLOWED to cross that border first. Many times I've found myself at a point where it is clearly time to either start taking her clothes off or go home--it's past midnight and she gets into her bed, or my bed; or she follows me into a bathroom, or invites me into a closet with her at a house party--yet she still hasn't given any other indication of sexual interest, has kept up a solidly-constructed cover story for what she's doing. There's a 99% chance that she wants to have sex; but the legal and social penalties on a man for making a mistake in that situation are so high that 99% is not high enough to make it worth it. And a man only gets one chance; if she puts herself out there and he doesn't grab her, it's over; she will never try again.
I wish we could all just drop our bashfulness and just be cool with sex. It feels great! It is good for us (please take appropriate STD precautions though). It makes us happy. Communication is key. Telling your Partner what you like. We need to be more generous with our giving (men especially) in pleasing our Partners. Let's be honest fellas, it's generally pretty easy for us to get off. And we know how amazing it feels, so lets share the...umm...love and give the ladies their turn!
Well why has nature made it feel so pleasureable? I am fairly sure I read somewhere that we are one of only a few animals that have orgasms when mating. One of a few animals that mate purely for pleasure. All animals have the drive or urge to procreate, but they don't also have the pleasure that goes with it.
Nature has made it feel so pleasurable because it’s the easiest way to get us to do it! Otherwise we would go extinct as a species. Why else would we if it wasn’t pleasurable. I’m pretty sure it is pleasurable for most mammals.
Good point. Why has nature not provided the orgasm to all animals across the board, rather than just the urge to procreate? I googled it - the list of animals believed to experience orgasms are Female Primates, Chimpanees, Japanese Macaques, Bonobos (of course) and dolphins. Another suggests rats may. Another article states the physical makeup in mammals is very similar in terms of nerve endings to genitals, but no “orgasm like” response has been observed. As to reptiles/birds and insects, those are not mentioned.
The difference is because they are social communities that need to work together as a mixed gender team to work efficiently. Solitary animals probably don’t have this, but they do go into “heat”. That is different
Hey Aella. It's awesome that you are trying this, that you try things in general, that you are earnestly interested in how to improve sexual relationships and experiences in a deep way, in an authentic, nasty messy, awesome, human's are multifaceted way. I've written this to you at least several times on twitter.
I am so curious what you think about other conscious, intentional, clear-eyed sexuality practices. I can see similarities, though so many of them are either somewhat spiritual (but then again, why wouldn't they be, sex is like lsd sometimes), and these things almost always get pushed into the margins by this culture. Just curious if you see yourself as part of this tradition. Barbara Carrellas and Annie Sprinkle come to mind. Anyway. Good luck. And at risk of being terribly fucking woo: blessings.
I wish I caught this earlier! Its very inline with my general mission statement. I do believe most guys want to do right, they are just bimbos about interacting with women. They need very literal tutorials. I love that this exists.
Seriously considered attending, but while I am attractive for a man of a certain age, I am of a certain age. I think that despite my interest in feedback I'm not the demographic you're looking for.
I appreciate your vision and efforts to make this happen. Although I am not a subscriber, I hope you can reach out and speak to Kezia Noble from the UK regarding pickup artistry. I am sure she will have a lot of insights regarding your training methods as she is a seasoned coach that was training men for a long time and has tons of testimonials having been out there in the field herself.
Perhaps that might change your views on the PUA stuff
This is really cool. Wishing you luck. I want to see this change in the world.
Thank you for bringing this event into being! It's fascinating, I'm hopeful it will be a wonderful experience for all, and I can't wait to attend.
You should think about writing a review or overview of the experience, after it’s over with. I’m curious, but can’t attend due to geographical difficulties. 😔
This feels like a bunch of PUA bullshit meant to scam simps and incels. PUA is a scam and so is this, because it treats sexuality like a videogame where you can negotiate attraction and earn it with the correct inputs, and it doesn't work like that. There's no cheat or combination for words for making a woman be attracted to you because at the end of the day that comes from three simple things that men cannont summon out of thin hair, that is Looks, money and status. There's no good dating advice other than "become a passport bro" or "become rich, get plastic surgery".
I feel bad for you internet people trapped in a fog of memes masquerading as truth. The internet has no room for glorious alternative subcultures where people seduced each other with wit, adventure, kindness, sexual skill, and a million other things of which sheer good looks or wealth are one of many possibilities. My artsy circle in pre-internet times was full of unlikely pairings and we’d all discuss how this person or that person was magnetic in some unique and irresistible way.
I’m out of the game these days but I hope Gen z still gets to live in that world, somewhere.
Probably the most thoughtful comment here. So many people abandoned the concept of a genuine connection for a gamified idea of leveling up in an abstract competition
lol this is so not true
But it did turn out to be true. I know how these events go, I have second hand experience from clubs and the party scene which are a lite version of this. The sexually inadequate losers pay to get in, the winners tend to bring more women to the women as payment instead.
This is just a female version of a PUA bootcamp that doesn’t even undo the psychological damage the left has done in making the men willing to try and handle rejection. At least now the PUA’s are admitting that looks, fashion and mindset matters a lot more than plain low inhibition and rejection tolerance gained by exposure therapy.
"second-hand experience" so you're playing telephone on anecdotal evidence, which is not a strong basis for an argument
The only studies backing up PUA bootcamps and Aella’s Slutcon bootcamp is plain Exposure therapy. Which isn’t the end all be all, especially when we have actual studies that show the other factors are way more important in getting your foot through the door which emphasize LMS more. Macken Murphy talks about these studies on his YouTube channel. He’s an Oxford researcher into this stuff. My experience, although anecdotal, comes from trying to replicate the efficacy of improving each factor independently.
what women actually want:
- Global / 20-Country Study (YouGov, 2017): Across 20 countries, women consistently ranked personality above good looks. Singapore: 85% of women said personality matters most; India: ~75% agreed.
- UK (Ipsos, 2023): Men thought women prioritized looks and money. In reality, 60% of women chose humour and 53% chose kindness as the most important traits.
- Body Image Studies (Lei et al., British Journal of Psychology, 2021): Men overestimate how muscular women want them to be; women’s actual preferences are more moderate.
- Canada (Ipsos, 2012): ~83% of Canadians, especially women, said a sense of humor matters more than good looks.
- Middle East & North Africa (YouGov / Gulf News, 2017): UAE: 61% of women chose personality; only 13% chose money, 23% looks. Saudi Arabia: ~79% said personality > looks. Egypt: ~83% agreed.
- Latin America (The Swaddle, 2018): Women from Brazil, Mexico, and Colombia emphasized education, kindness, and supportiveness over abs or wealth.
- India (Bumble India, 2023): About 56% of singles put kindness above looks or income.
- USA:
- - Kindness & brains (Evolutionary Psychological Science, 2025)
- - Shared values & stability (The Guardian, 2025)
- - Financial reliability (HelloClue Global Survey)
- - Political compatibility (HelloClue Global Survey)
- - Warmth & ambition (Psychology Today)... be ambitious, but don’t be an asshole about it, or sacrifice your family for your job.
pasted much of this from a corner of the internet; checked these myself
Attraction doesn't come from 3 simple things. Completely wrong. It comes from one simple thing.
How you make her feel.
That's it.
I started exploring the world of women at the age of 48 after a 28 year marriage with almost zero dating experience. I was an average frustrated chump and had no idea.
Almost 10 years later with massive learning and experience I so resonate with Aella's words.
I've had my most crazily successful times with women when I've had literally nothing. No status, no money, no looks.
But I've spent years now dancing and feeling the natural ecstasy of my own body. And in connection with the right lady this energy grows and deepens. That's all. It works. Try it. Go dancing.
touch grass
You had me in the first half
This turned out to be mostly true, it was mostly asian tech-bro incels that paid 10k to get in and get pity sex from the “volunteers”.
Men have already figured out the true factors for attraction, and that is LMS (Looks-Money-Status). I personally don’t think PUA is a scam, but the people who sell it extremely over inflated it’s worth when compared to other indicators. It’s at best an efficient way to signal a false status.
This is worsened by the fact that misandry is openly promoted by the left leaning circles due to masculinity and masculine sexual expression is being perceived as the marxist oppressor.
A good example is the famous problem among liberal circles, which is a lot of liberal women want liberal men, that happen to “look” conservative.
"cannot summon out of thin hair" - Ha!
Not wrong, though. Dating sites report this. PlentyOfFish, before they were acquired by Match.com, used to report that about 10% of the users ("date bacon") are getting all the dates they want, and the remaining 90% get little or nothing.
In person, it works more like salesmanship.
I recommend the book The Mating Mind for a good understanding why humans evolved attraction signals that can be learned, understood, and worked on to better yourself.
it’s astonishing that people can believe this is true. it’s so easy to disprove!
Incel bullshit. PUA works.
PUA is solipsistic, narcissistic, manipulation.
Nah, this is horseshit and you’re a Blackpill Doomer. How are manlets and unemployed losers able to get their dicks wet, because many do.
But is it?
Excited for this, and sad I can't make it, but supportive of future instances in the short-, mid-, and long-term. As a mom to an amab child who may one day desire women (if he chooses!) I'm deeply nervous about some of the trends I'm seeing in Millennials (my generation) andGen-Z, and I'm really hoping that Gen-A grows up in a culture where this has become the prevalent way of engaging with sex and desire. Slim chances, but I'm an optimist.
Please spread out and do this (a) every year and (b) around the world, so people who can't (or won't) travel halfway around the world can attend too, please.
Bring this to Britain. Everyone here needs it.
So why'd you call it Slutcon, then, rather than something more suggestive of the actual intent?
Yeah that would be good. BootyCamp? SluteCamp? I think Aella is trying really hard to create positive connotations with the word slut, but it doesn't seem to best word here
you wouldnt believe the extensive debates we had on the backend about alternatives lol. But slutcon felt good? We both want something slightly polarizing - like we would rather be loud and unashamed about what we are and attract people who are willing to engage with that - and also I genuinely think the concept of ‘slut’ is good. It indicates something like… not being bound by societal norms for what you’re ‘supposed’ to do, and instead pursuing selfishly the sexual pleasure you truly want. I do think, for Slutcon, this can encompass monogamy too! If your selfish sexual pleasure involves only one person and a closed relationship then that is truly the Spirit of Slut as well.
I thought 'slutcon' was already the military alert status for when Aella is in town?
Hey Aella,
In "How Unusual Are Unusual Sexual Fantasies?," I reviewed the prevalence of paraphilic and extreme sexual interests, including a reanalysis of your public Big Kink dataset. You can find the article here: https://thehumanconditionrevisited.substack.com/p/how-unusual-are-unusual-fantasies.
I would be honored if you would take a look at the article!
I think one reason men are bad at making women horny is the word "sex". When you have the word "sex", you start classifying happenings as "sex" or "not sex". Which isn't how sex happens. And, while I totally support what you're doing, Aella, and I realize you have to use the word "sex" a lot to explain what you're trying to do, I think that some of the tools you need to make sex better won't be found inside the box labelled "sex". The main danger of analysis isn't that you'll dispel the "magic"; it's that you'll break continuums into categories so you can use symbolic logic on words. In this case, breaking the sexiness continuum into "not sex" and "sex".
Mammals, birds, fish, even insects, have mating rituals which ethologists usually describe as finite state automata. Typically, a male must perform a sequence of actions, and at each step the female must approve, and sometimes take some stereotypical action herself, for the male to advance to the next stage in the sequence. Only the very last step in the chain is technically "sex".
We don't imagine a male bower-bird gathering objects for his bower is thinking "Oh boy, this shiny thing is gonna get me laid!" There's no need for him to consciously know what's at the end of the chain. (Which is probably good, because it's pathetically anti-climactic for most birds.) Likewise, my own experience is not of me walking into a room, picking a woman, and wondering "How can I have sex with her?", but of my body trying to trick me into having sex. It keeps feeding me innocent impulses that always just happen to push me one step closer to sex. When I'm sizing a woman up, I'm not thinking about sex. I'm just curious. If she's pretty, well, that's nice; I like looking at pretty things. I bet I could get a better view if I got a bit closer. When I get closer, she laughs at something someone said, and her smile is so charming that I toss in a follow-on myself, one that might make her laugh again, because I want to see her smile again. And so on, and so on.
This plays out in a thousand different ways, most of which seem to have nothing to do with sex. Are you having sex when you smile at someone? When you do the dishes for them? Legally, no. But an ethologist's graph of the human mating sequence might well have steps in it that those actions would check off.
Nowadays, each state in the US has a section of its legal code devoted to defining precisely what is and is not sex, so you can know precisely when in the sequence you must halt and verify mutual knowledge of consent to have sex. This is important! But it focuses attention on a "sex" which is just a small part of a larger process.
And when people think "Now we will have sex", it focuses their minds on the limited range of things shown in pornography and listed in that legal code. Being curious about your partner's body, and her reactions, "isn't sex", so they don't do it. Or at least I think they must not, since most men still don't know where the G-spot is. I didn't know what a G-spot was the first time I had sex, but I sure as hell noticed where my fingers were when the lump formed and she started moaning. It took, like, 20 seconds of spelunking to discover when I didn't even know it existed.
Where the process of moving towards sex nearly always breaks down for me is at that socially-constructed not-sex/sex border. This happens because--and I'm gonna generalize, but it's a generalization with VERY few exceptions--the woman wants the man to lead her across that border; but today, only the woman is legally and morally ALLOWED to cross that border first. Many times I've found myself at a point where it is clearly time to either start taking her clothes off or go home--it's past midnight and she gets into her bed, or my bed; or she follows me into a bathroom, or invites me into a closet with her at a house party--yet she still hasn't given any other indication of sexual interest, has kept up a solidly-constructed cover story for what she's doing. There's a 99% chance that she wants to have sex; but the legal and social penalties on a man for making a mistake in that situation are so high that 99% is not high enough to make it worth it. And a man only gets one chance; if she puts herself out there and he doesn't grab her, it's over; she will never try again.
Aella i am a student at cal, any chance for a student discount
I wish we could all just drop our bashfulness and just be cool with sex. It feels great! It is good for us (please take appropriate STD precautions though). It makes us happy. Communication is key. Telling your Partner what you like. We need to be more generous with our giving (men especially) in pleasing our Partners. Let's be honest fellas, it's generally pretty easy for us to get off. And we know how amazing it feels, so lets share the...umm...love and give the ladies their turn!
Never going to happen when the consequence and purpose of sex has always been the reproduction of human life
Well why has nature made it feel so pleasureable? I am fairly sure I read somewhere that we are one of only a few animals that have orgasms when mating. One of a few animals that mate purely for pleasure. All animals have the drive or urge to procreate, but they don't also have the pleasure that goes with it.
Nature has made it feel so pleasurable because it’s the easiest way to get us to do it! Otherwise we would go extinct as a species. Why else would we if it wasn’t pleasurable. I’m pretty sure it is pleasurable for most mammals.
Good point. Why has nature not provided the orgasm to all animals across the board, rather than just the urge to procreate? I googled it - the list of animals believed to experience orgasms are Female Primates, Chimpanees, Japanese Macaques, Bonobos (of course) and dolphins. Another suggests rats may. Another article states the physical makeup in mammals is very similar in terms of nerve endings to genitals, but no “orgasm like” response has been observed. As to reptiles/birds and insects, those are not mentioned.
The difference is because they are social communities that need to work together as a mixed gender team to work efficiently. Solitary animals probably don’t have this, but they do go into “heat”. That is different
Hey Aella. It's awesome that you are trying this, that you try things in general, that you are earnestly interested in how to improve sexual relationships and experiences in a deep way, in an authentic, nasty messy, awesome, human's are multifaceted way. I've written this to you at least several times on twitter.
I am so curious what you think about other conscious, intentional, clear-eyed sexuality practices. I can see similarities, though so many of them are either somewhat spiritual (but then again, why wouldn't they be, sex is like lsd sometimes), and these things almost always get pushed into the margins by this culture. Just curious if you see yourself as part of this tradition. Barbara Carrellas and Annie Sprinkle come to mind. Anyway. Good luck. And at risk of being terribly fucking woo: blessings.
I wish I caught this earlier! Its very inline with my general mission statement. I do believe most guys want to do right, they are just bimbos about interacting with women. They need very literal tutorials. I love that this exists.
Seriously considered attending, but while I am attractive for a man of a certain age, I am of a certain age. I think that despite my interest in feedback I'm not the demographic you're looking for.
Keep up the good work!
High likelihood she has Borderline Personality Disorder and other cluster B traits so rest assured your demographic to her is just fine.
I appreciate your vision and efforts to make this happen. Although I am not a subscriber, I hope you can reach out and speak to Kezia Noble from the UK regarding pickup artistry. I am sure she will have a lot of insights regarding your training methods as she is a seasoned coach that was training men for a long time and has tons of testimonials having been out there in the field herself.
Perhaps that might change your views on the PUA stuff