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Moth Man's avatar

Most males are “ugly” at a first glance, without any context to who they are, my guess is because male strangers represent a potential evolutionary threat, both to men and women.

I could be wrong, but Id wager the “familiarity boost” in attractiveness is higher for men than for women. This could be tested by comparing how women would rate their close male friends and relatives and how that compares to rating from strangers.

If true, this may factor into why women rate men less attractive on average, and why men’s self rating is so off.

Something to think about is the medium of comparions: pictures. pictures may just make everyone look “ugly”, because of how impersonal they are. Even if asked to rate purely physically, People would probably rate someone lower from a picture, but a bit higher after just 5-10 minutes of interacting with them. This disparity may reflect in the higher self ratings (because everyone knows themaelves) and the lower stranger ratings (both direct and via comparison to self).

Some additional thoughts:

1. while everyone is naturally ‘delusional’, social media probably makes women more humble due to the constant comparisons.

2. men are probably wired to be over-confident in their appearance because confidence is sexy.

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Aris C's avatar

Have you tried incorporating variance into the analysis? Imagine someone whose average rating is 5, but who gets voted 0 by half the people and 10 by the other half. That person will get lots of enthusiastic attention, so they're (legitimately) likely to rate themselves higher than a 5.

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